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7 Important Qualities We Should Look For In People
You have to look for people who will be a constant in your life. Stability is one of the most important qualities in people because it makes us feel safe. Stability is how you'll always know where you stand with that person, through the good and bad times. The kind of people that won’t talk behind your back when there’s an issue but know they can come to you about it instead.
Every good relationship with friends, family or a lover is based on honesty. Honesty builds trust. If you are not able to be entirely honest with someone (likewise accept their honesty) a barrier builds eventually. If two people are always honest with each other, their connection and understanding grows deeper and fonder.
I realized finding someone who supports your decision in any situation is something very rare. More often, people seek empathy and a listener. Yet when it comes to giving the same they are simply not good at it. Human nature is innately self-centred. Friends who talk about themselves all the time... people who 'use' people to their advantage then leave. Support comes in the form of genuine concern. The kind of person that gets your back when you need them to (not when they need it), no questions asked. The kind of person who wants for you what you want for yourself.
A good sense of humor, even better when shared, is one subconscious thing we look for in our relationships. If two people are able to have fun together and appreciate one another's jokes then they are comfortable. If this person is able to make you smile or laugh uncontrollably, you'd know that tough times are never going to last.
A person who values integrity and morals is sane and grounded. These things shape a person's character. If someone is able to distinguish right from wrong and make rational decisions, he or she is a reliable person to have around. You want to surround yourself with people who have a strong sense of integrity. Integrity means awareness and awareness is important.
We tend to share ideas and learn new things from others. If a person is intelligent enough (not necessarily in Einstein way) to hold meaningful conversations, there is depth to him. Intelligence teaches us refreshing perspectives. It should be one of the top things we look for in people.
In my opinion kindness is tricky. Call me a skeptic but because kindness is highly coveted, it can be feigned. I think true kindness in people is seen and felt over time. You find yourself trusting that person and wanting to care for him a lot more. Kind people never act to hurt others intentionally, for whatever reason. As much as kindness is a highly coveted trait I find it hard to come across really kind people and the few times I have, I keep them close.
Noting down these 7 important qualities I now know why the people I am attached to emotionally, are who they are. The minority but special to me.
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This morning
Good food really makes all the difference.
Thank you for dragging me out when I didn't feel like moving.
EDIT
I don't want to look back in future and think of you as a cause of misery. It has been natural and easy so far, this following my heart. So kill sadness. Let's remember what you caused >> :*D.
I don't want to look back in future and think of you as a cause of misery. It has been natural and easy so far, this following my heart. So kill sadness. Let's remember what you caused >> :*D.
