We either want it, or we don't want it. There is no in-between.
To each her own although I cannot understand the things people suggest.
"See now you're left with nothing!!"
The 'something' here according to them, refers to the attention given by potential suitors. I must admit this much: Indeed it is a nice feeling to be chased. To be showered with gifts from time to time, to receive them as surprises, to have your wants and opinions prioritized by someone. It is a privilege to be treated exceptionally well and being aware of that brings about a nice feeling. But it stops there -- it stops at nice.
This is not that warm fuzzy feeling you'll want to keep for long. This is not from the person who makes you feel different. This is not 'something' we should allow to go on just so that we may continue to bask in all of their attention... because then it would be a scam. Not just to the party giving with no obvious return, but also a scam to ourselves.
There is absolutely no reason to feel bitter or jealous when this person eventually moves on from us. In all honesty I know I will be genuinely happy for him. We did not or could not accept, not at that point in time, not now. We make our own decisions and we must let others make their fair choices. Yet keeping this 'unwanted' attention is somehow of significance to a lot of women these days. I don't know. Is there some psychological explanation? Maybe it is the subconscious need to verify one's self-worth with attention given by the opposite sex? I will never be able to understand. I am insecure in some ways (hahahaha shit so honest for what) but am I glad I never valued myself based on how many men I could string into texting me at once. It is quite a dreadful form of narcissism, in my opinion. It is more important to make ourselves clear. We can still try to become a good friend to people whom matter. If it works out platonically that would be the best outcome. And if it doesn't, well at least we tried.
It takes time. After some time we know. We will either want it and chase/wait for it. Or we don't want it and let it go. That's all. This is not a football game. There is no reserve.
It takes time. After some time we know. We will either want it and chase/wait for it. Or we don't want it and let it go. That's all. This is not a football game. There is no reserve.
Home Alone Night #2 GOODNIGHT.
